^That's an aweseme idea for a song, "Sex Camel". 

So, when the hell did "Dating in Cleveland" turn into "Dating in College".  BACK ON TOPIC!  ;)

I met two girls this past weekend.  Neither were from Cleveland.  One of them has not called me back yet.  I had dinner with the other, last night.

 

So, you know... read into that what you will. :)

So, when the hell did "Dating in Cleveland" turn into "Dating in College". BACK ON TOPIC! ;)

 

let's just change the subject to Dating in College. It is more interesting. :)

I've only been drugged by accident, and it was horrible. I drank a free drink from a girl who said she didn't trust it (dumb move on my part). Within minutes, I could feel it. I had never been hornier in my life. I started licking girls' faces, putting my head in their tits, feeling them up, trying to get them to leave with me, and then I ran out the bar. I tore off my shirt in the dead of winter, ran down the middle of the street, headed to my frat house, got a horrible fever and headache, threw up for an hour, asked to be taken to the hospital, and then woke up on a couch four hours later with little memory of what had just happened. It was unbelievable, and I never want to experience that again.

 

You sure remember a lot for having "little memory of what had just happened."

no, but you guys have not been kicked around yet by 20 or so years by a thing called life.

 

Good thing I'm not jaded about dating and life!!

 

C-Dawg Njaim, you have every reason to feel a sense of global doom. Sept. 11th was a helluva wake-up call, then add on all the other stuff.

 

I grew up during a worsening of the cold war in the early 1980s, when I and my friends went to the theater to see movies like "Wargames" and "Red Dawn" or saw made-for-TV movies like "The Day After." We were pretty convinced that our chances of living to see the end of the 1980s weren't very good.

 

But while my friends were out partying on Friday nights and picking up girls, I spent them at home drawing or writing while listening to music. I still do except now I have a computer and all my high school friends have moved away, got married and started families.

 

I'm still interested in dating, and do so every so often. I'm just not very adept at it and the pickings get fewer and worse all the time.

http://www.menshealth.com/metrogrades/08_apr_sex/

 

If Fort Wayne is NUMBER THREE, then this list is a joke.

 

Says the man from Toledo.

Thank you, Athens.

Sorry, I think Richmond Heights is Ohio's most sexually open city in Ohio, bar none.

Columbus is the 2nd most sexually satisfied? With or without a partner?

Sorry, I think Richmond Heights is Ohio's most sexually open city in Ohio, bar none.

 

Ha! Talking like someone who hasn't lived in Athens. No city in Ohio is easier. Ask Playboy. BGSTDU has its place with all the hot education sluts and all, but it pales to Athens.

 

Richmond Heights? Obviously, let me hit that dank.

 

No, I still say Richmond Heights wins.

Richmond Heights, MO? Why would you know anything about that?

I personally am not  jaded (nor single!) but I think people can get more jaded over time for sure. These poor kids! of course once the hormones subside it could get better.

Richmond Heights, OH.

Many people on the board lived through the late '60s, '70s and '80s (up 'til C. Everett Coop spread a bunch of lies about AIDS), and can tell you that there was way more casual sex going on back then than today.

 

Not really. I've talked plenty to adults, and of course the 60's and 70's was a sexual revolution, but it pales to the hook-up culture of today. And really, it arguably does not match the flapper and big party era of the 1920's. In my own survey research, the mean number of partners (includes oral) at OU is 23 before graduation with most falling between 10 and 40. People still had emotions in the 60's and 70's. There's no attempt whatsoever at a real "relationship" for most young people today. We didn't invent casual sex, but we did invent drunk dials and rampant 4am booty calls. This requires the cell phone.

 

[iNSERT CHARLIE BROWN TEACHER NOISE HERE]

 

Stop insinuating personal experience as fact.  To think the drunk dial didn't exist until cell phones is insane, as is half of the other anecdotal experiences you refer to.

 

Dating in Cleveland, or any other city, is just like your job hunt, or anyting else - its what you make of it.  There are plenty of jobs in Cleveland, just like there are plenty of single people.  Its just a matter of whether or not you find what you are looking for or if you are "applying" for the right position, or going about your job hunt (or significant other search) in the most productive fashion.

Throughout the dawn of time every generation thinks they have it worse...the ONE thing I think is worse, and I am not sure if you mentioned it in the many, many posts, is the permanency of blogs and internet postings, that could humiliate you forever. Sure my peers had ways to embarrass ourselves, but the shame would only last as long as someones memory. Yet it is all relative. While it would be mortifying for me to have anything personal shared on the internet, you guys let it all hang out, so maybe it  would not be so embarrassing or career wrecking after all.

^We googled a prospective job candidate before we considered hiring her. Her racy internet site that deals with some interesting sexual practices didn't impress my boss.

 

I used to teach high school. When female students would email me hw questions, I wish that they would have used a more appropriate email address. I just didn't feel comfortable responding to 14-yr old girls whose email address started out with sexbayb@..

^Yeah, I teach now and I get that exact thing with the emails.  And you go to a computer and half the time someone's myspace account is logged in.  Back in the old days when you intercepted an inter-female note where the girls were talking about who they thought was hot or even better, a true love letter, that was the jackpot.  Your status on the playground couldn't recieve a bigger boost than scoring a scandalous note from the trash can or stolen out of a purse or notebook.  The setup at my school was great because the girls and boys were separated on the playground so EVERY guy got to see the note with no possibility of female interferance.  Since every kid has a cell phone now, do they even pass notes?

   

 

 

jmecklenborg and 3231.  Our interns have arrived.  Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts.  as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites.  Some are pretty skeeazy!

^We googled a prospective job candidate before we considered hiring her. Her racy internet site that deals with some interesting sexual practices didn't impress my boss.

 

I used to teach high school. When female students would email me hw questions, I wish that they would have used a more appropriate email address. I just didn't feel comfortable responding to 14-yr old girls whose email address started out with sexbayb@..

 

jmecklenborg and 3231. Our interns have arrived. Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts. as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites. Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

Were these sites relevent to their job performance?

jmecklenborg and 3231.  Our interns have arrived.  Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts.  as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites.  Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

You do realize it's very easy to manipulate anything written on your myspace/facebook page right?

^We googled a prospective job candidate before we considered hiring her. Her racy internet site that deals with some interesting sexual practices didn't impress my boss.

 

I used to teach high school. When female students would email me hw questions, I wish that they would have used a more appropriate email address. I just didn't feel comfortable responding to 14-yr old girls whose email address started out with sexbayb@..

 

jmecklenborg and 3231. Our interns have arrived. Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts. as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites. Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

Were these sites relevent to their job performance?

 

Who knows? She never got a job with us because my boss was fearful that she wouldn't represent the organization well. She also questioned the candidate's overall sense of judgment--don't put stuff out on the internet that could come back to haunt you--what type of decisions would this lady make that could come back to haunt our organization?

jmecklenborg and 3231.  Our interns have arrived.  Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts.  as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites.  Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

You do realize it's very easy to manipulate anything written on your myspace/facebook page right?

 

I think MTS is trying to "catch" those who though they were cruising under the social radar un-noticed and oblivious to the fact that others see that crap. I for one facebook a lot of my contact and potential hires.

I spent some time untagging myself from various facebook pictures.  That site can be downright dangerous

jmecklenborg and 3231.  Our interns have arrived.  Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts.  as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites.  Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

You do realize it's very easy to manipulate anything written on your myspace/facebook page right?

 

I think MTS is trying to "catch" those who though they were cruising under the social radar un-noticed and oblivious to the fact that others see that crap. I for one facebook a lot of my contact and potential hires.

 

Ding...ding...ding.....

 

We hav a winner.

Ah.

"Real jobs" are going to get to the point where they're not going to be able to find any people to fill positions because they are invading people's personal lives so much. Everybody will end up working Joe jobs or starting their own businesses. That's how young people look at life today.

Sorry, I think Richmond Heights is Ohio's most sexually open city in Ohio, bar none.

 

 

ugh...Yeah the Deer are reproducing at an alarming rate!

The rankings are skewed by the gay population. There are less bitter gays in Columbus than other Ohio cities.

 

I'm speechless.  :-)

Getting back to the original post: Go to the places you like to go to. You're not going to meet the right person by going to places you are not comfortable with or wouldn't ordinarily go to. Buckeye Donuts is one of the most interesting, underrated places around. Probably a good place to meet somebody if you're not looking to meet somebody.

 

I met my wife in a Chicago bar after I left the hot-spot pick-up joint. I stopped at my corner tavern for one more beer on the way home, and there she was.

I met my wife in a Chicago bar after I left the hot-spot pick-up joint. I stopped at my corner tavern for one more beer on the way home, and there she was.

 

a general "how i met my wife/husband/SO could be an interesting thread.

it seems to me that you're stereotyping too much and ruling out huge areas of town because of that.  Don't automatically rule out the short north because you think its all yuppies....the area is definitely diverse and interesting. 

 

My experience tells me you shouldn't be actively looking for a relationship.  If you say 'I want to be in a relationship in 6 months' then its not going to happen.  Stay open to different types of people and you'd be surprised wwhat comes your way.  In my experience, the best relationships have come by chance.  Granted, I have never been out there actively searching for relationships. 

My sister-in-law moved to Cleveland last year. She promptly joined Eharmony. She's getting married in late summer to the first and only guy that she dated through Eharmony.

My sister-in-law moved to Cleveland last year. She promptly joined Eharmony. She's getting married in late summer to the first and only guy that she dated through Eharmony.

 

That homophobic company!

 

I urge no one to use them!

^We googled a prospective job candidate before we considered hiring her. Her racy internet site that deals with some interesting sexual practices didn't impress my boss.

 

I used to teach high school. When female students would email me hw questions, I wish that they would have used a more appropriate email address. I just didn't feel comfortable responding to 14-yr old girls whose email address started out with sexbayb@..

 

jmecklenborg and 3231. Our interns have arrived. Last week I had my assistants print out pages from their myspace/facebook accounts. as this week I asked them to provide me with a bio of themselves that includes a internet social network link

 

I can't wait to see how many have changed their sites. Some are pretty skeeazy!

 

Were these sites relevent to their job performance?

 

Who knows? She never got a job with us because my boss was fearful that she wouldn't represent the organization well. She also questioned the candidate's overall sense of judgment--don't put stuff out on the internet that could come back to haunt you--what type of decisions would this lady make that could come back to haunt our organization?

 

You could say the same for hiring a PI to follow around potential employees.  The PI might not follow them into their bedroom, but that doesn't mean you aren't invading their "privacy" by having them followed in public.

I have a similar problem as the OP but usually I am just frustrated that all the bars around campus are all the same with the exception of a select few.  I like to go to Ravari room, sort of a metal'ish bar north of Campus.  I meet girls here and there but I want a more laid back place to hang out, sometimes I go to Kafe Kerouac or Buckeye Donuts (which, as mentioned, is a great place to meet all sorts of people). 

 

If you are looking for the intellectual sorts you might have to check places during the day (as many of them are in the same situation and have no place to go at night but hang out with each other at houses) or check out random places like a hookah bar.  Hang out in places where you would hang out :) Logically you should meet people that are like you.

 

Also, as mentioned by atlas, do not generalize areas too much.  German Village has a large variety of bars both older and younger.  Try different places and do not be afraid to walk up to someone you think is interesting and start a conversation.  If you want some activity to engage in conversation look for discussion groups in coffee shops and what not.

Where do all the people with intelligence hang out?

Not at Neil and Norwich.

Coming from a guy who couldn't even find the intersection ;)

I don't look for the poor people.

What's at Neil and Norwich? Isn't a bunch of houses?

 

David: How intelligent are these people you wish to find?  If they are too intelligent they might be socially awkward and hide in their rooms all day, so you need to find one and chase it down when it ventures outside :)  I think Batelle hires pretty smart people, you can go loiter in front of their building talking to their employees.  Most of the intelligent or at least interesting conversations I have with people I don't know take place in coffee shops or slower bars. 

*bump*

...  Personally, I like blue collar dudes.  My first partner was a cop.  A guy I sort of liked when I first moved to NYC was a cable installer.  It all about who makes you happy and with each person what they find attractive about someone else is taste specific.

 

I think too many people harbor the misperception that blue-collar workers are in those jobs because they aren't able to hold down a salaried /white-collar job. That's not the case at all; a lot of the blue-collar guys I've know are in their jobs because that's what they love to do, and in a lot of cases those jobs require more brain-power and initiative than many administrative jobs.

 

For example, because of the sophistication of computerized power-train control systems, diesel technicians who work on trucks, locomotives, and power-plant engines have to master a very broad spectrum of skills, from basic mechanics and machine-repair to eletronic systems troubleshooting.

 

They have to understand the technical complexities and have the manual dexterity and mechanical aptitude to maintain and repair precision equipment, and they have to know how all that stuff interrelates in a variety of applications.

 

My first professional/occupational training was as a draftsman and machinist/toolmaker, and somehow I digressed over to manufacturing cost analysis and later into computer tech support where I did what I considered essentially blue-collar technician work while wearing a white shirt and tie. I connect better with blue-collar men with brains and diverse interests, than with management-professional types.

 

My current law firm is Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe!

 

And going back to your reference, DanB, the Car Talk guys are an excellent example of what I mean. They're bright, well-educated, articulate, funny, and their field is in automobile technology and repair, almost a quintessential blue-collar field.

I've tried many of the ones already mentioned, but found the following to be better - for me anyway. However, None of them have resulted in anything long lasting.

Free site: Plentyoffish.com

Paid site: Yahoo Personals

 

I've also tried Singlesnet - crap

eHarmony - not bad, but too expensive

Date.com - crap

OkCupid - (free) Sort of fun, but nobody was really serious about meeting

 

I've actually started looking beyond our shores. Yes, a "Russian mail order bride." However I'm not looking to marry her to make her an American citizen. I've already been through a few scam artists and found someone who I'm confident is on the level. But it's astonishing how many women outnumber men in eastern Europe and western Russia -- something like 10 million more women than men of prime marrying age (20s-40s). The woman I've been talking with every day for two months (mostly by e-mail) is very sweet, intelligent, adorable and I hope to meet her soon.

Tried match.com just for kicks, met girls from different cities because distance worked for me! (no commitment) Met a certain girl from Queens, dated for a few years with distance...now she is here and we are married with a 10 month old son!  :) 

 

Internet dating is no different than "real" life....it just broadens your playing field...

Congrats, JDD941! Now that's an inspirational story!

 

No, I'm not a Democrat!   :wink2:

 

But, can you name the source?

 

No what is it?

Tried match.com just for kicks, met girls from different cities because distance worked for me! (no commitment) Met a certain girl from Queens, dated for a few years with distance...now she is here and we are married with a 10 month old son!  :) 

 

Internet dating is no different than "real" life....it just broadens your playing field...

 

Congrats.  we need to see some pictures.

My current law firm is Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe!

 

If you're talking about that, I already identified it several posts back. It's Tom's & Ray's lawyers in the credits at the end of Car Talk on NPR.

 

Pay attention, whippersnappers!