Must be a particular brand of humor.

 

Funniest thread for me is the Greek one.

I don't believe that story is true. No one says 'mercy me' anymore.

that's right. It's been replaced by the more up-to-date "good gravy."

Must be a particular brand of humor.

 

Funniest thread for me is the Greek one.

 

We'll never have another humorous moment on here if the standard for funny is a thread featuring men in low-rise capri jeans.  We just need to place that in a category all its own and move on...

Must be a particular brand of humor.

 

Funniest thread for me is the Greek one.

 

We'll never have another humorous moment on here if the standard for funny is a thread featuring men in low-rise capri jeans.  We just need to place that in a category all its own and move on...

 

Fine. How about we call that category "Funniest Thread"?

Whoa.  I've been around a few future crazy cat ladies (also, girls who are way too into their plants), but these bird girls already went full H-bomb crazy. 

 

Alright, this starts off a little slow, but then gets pretty amazing:

^I think a lot of people really underestimate the amount of time and mental energy required to "figure out" the opposite sex. Other things are going to have to suffer; that's for sure. The reason those "Chads" he refers to "figure it out" at such a young age is that most of them literally don't know how to do anything else. All of their mental energy has gone into "game". Remember when you were 13 and you had already figured out which other members of your same sex at school were totally lame? Like you and your buddies were like, "Oh, that guy totally sucks." But the girls didn't know... it took them until they were 30 or 35 to figure out that that guy is indeed totally lame.

 

It's something almost everyone has to go through.

anyone have dating app recommendations?

 

WCPO anchor Tanya O'Rourke is allegedly dating Hamilton County Prosecutor Joe Deters.

https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/press-releases/2019/09/ftc-sues-owner-online-dating-service-matchcom-using-fake-love

 

FTC Sues Owner of Online Dating Service Match.com for Using Fake Love Interest Ads To Trick Consumers into Paying for a Match.com Subscription

 

The Federal Trade Commission sued online dating service Match Group, Inc. (Match), the owner of Match.com, Tinder, OKCupid, PlentyOfFish, and other dating sites, alleging that the company used fake love interest advertisements to trick hundreds of thousands of consumers into purchasing paid subscriptions on Match.com.

 

The agency also alleges that Match has unfairly exposed consumers to the risk of fraud and engaged in other allegedly deceptive and unfair practices. For instance, the FTC alleges Match offered false promises of “guarantees,” failed to provide services to consumers who unsuccessfully disputed charges, and made it difficult for users to cancel their subscriptions.

 

“We believe that Match.com conned people into paying for subscriptions via messages the company knew were from scammers,” said Andrew Smith, Director of the FTC’s Bureau of Consumer Protection. “Online dating services obviously shouldn’t be using romance scammers as a way to fatten their bottom line.”

 

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I'm cynically unsurprised to see allegations like this.  The online dating world has apparently changed dramatically since I met my wife online (on eHarmony) in 2010.  As online dating has become more mainstream and accepted, it's also attracted people keen on abusing that acceptance (and the more target-rich environment now that it's no longer just a niche thing).  The fact that Match Group apparently played along with it (since giving such people access to the platform was good for their own bottom lines) is an unfortunately all-too-human corporate temptation, too.

 

Here's hoping some actual swamp-draining happens here instead of a quick and easy settlement.

^I had no idea that once company owned all of those.  in 10 years we'll have circa-2015 Match.com hacks of our presidential candidates muddying the campaigns.  

Those apps are pretty much scams because they have to be.
 

For straight guys, the key is to not look like you are looking.   If you are actively looking, you are not a challenge.   This is a turn off.   You have to get their interest without looking like you are trying to.

Being on a dating site is by definition "actively looking".    If you have "game" maybe you can get past that.

I went from having "no game" into a job where I didn't need it.   I was in a social setting and didn't pay particular attention to any of them, because I couldn't.  

In the past, you still would need a closing game, so to speak.   To keep from being friendzoned.    But the lines are blurrier now between going out and "date", and relationship statuses.  That's much less of a concern.
 

I've used a couple of the dating apps mentioned and do not think they were a scam at all.  I got good dates from Bumble, Tinder and Match and had no problem cancelling subscriptions and did not get fake love interest adverts.

At this rate it won't be long until people start realizing that these internet companies are just as big of snakes as the old railroad barons and Sugar Trust.

I think the culture has changed enough--had changed enough even by 2010--that merely "actively looking" wasn't a complete turn-off.  Granted, I met 8 women live out of 700+ possible matches that I got e-mailed about by eHarmony, but one of those turned into a good relationship of about 2 years (2008-2010), and then one I've been married to since 2012.

 

You obviously don't want to sound or appear desperate.  But that's different.

 

Fake ads could definitely have crushed the confidence of the far-less-secure me of 2007, though, once I figured out I'd been scammed.

I thought recently about how the technology surrounding dating (remember having to call a girl not knowing if her DAD would pick up the phone?!!!) keeps changing but the core body language doesn't.  I don't see women doing anything different at all in this regard as compared to when I was a teenager, let alone 100 or 1,000 years ago. 

7 hours ago, jmecklenborg said:

I thought recently about how the technology surrounding dating (remember having to call a girl not knowing if her DAD would pick up the phone?!!!) keeps changing but the core body language doesn't.  I don't see women doing anything different at all in this regard as compared to when I was a teenager, let alone 100 or 1,000 years ago. 

 

I'm  not even close to a body language expert, probably being on the spectrum at all.   But mindset and approach has changed dramatically.

 

A woman born in 1966, one born in 1975, one born in 1981, and one born in 1984 won’t change their mindsets much as they get older.   But there is a significant difference in their view of who should take the initiative, the difference between friend and boyfriend, whether or not a “date” must be formally established as such in advance, and how formal a relationship must be declared.  As the Facebook status says, it’s complicated.  But the younger they are the more assertive and less concerned with formality.   Those four years are my last four involvements, my many years of watching these things happen while sober supports this more direct evidence.

 

You still have to be a challenge, at least at some point.

The irony is that the biggest attraction boost is women they think are attractive being attracted to you.  The scene in "Legally Blonde" where Reece Witherspoon helps out her classmate was very accurate.

On 2/7/2020 at 7:37 AM, E Rocc said:

You still have to be a challenge, at least at some point.

 

Just reduce social media activity and you become a "mystery".  

 

I was so much of a "challenge" and so "mysterious" in much of my 20s and 30s that they all bolted because they thought I didn't like them.

18 hours ago, GCrites80s said:

I was so much of a "challenge" and so "mysterious" in much of my 20s and 30s that they all bolted because they thought I didn't like them.

  

On 2/5/2020 at 1:28 PM, Gramarye said:

You obviously don't want to sound or appear desperate.  But that's different.

 

These are both exactly right. I too spent most of my life confusing "acting interested" with "looking desperate," and my attempts to not look desperate kept me mostly single the whole time. Women want you to respond promptly, ask questions etc. 

 

But it depends who you are. There are some guys who actually do leave 23 text messages in a row or 10 voice mails like Favreau in Swingers. Those guys probably need to hear the "be mysterious" advice. The problem is that advice is given to everyone when another significant slice of the population is aloof by nature and it's the last thing they need to hear.

That's why I stopped taking "Advice for Guys" and switched to relationship advice that isn't aimed at any specific gender or sexual orientation. 

3 hours ago, mu2010 said:

  There are some guys who actually do leave 23 text messages in a row or 10 voice mails like Favreau in Swingers.

 

 

 

Frankly I don't think a skit like this one would be made now.  It would be cancelled on the launch pad. 

 

 

 

Whoa.  https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/29/fashion/weddings/after-7-weeks-of-no-an-opening-in-her-datebook.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=Love

 

Quote

 

It wasn’t long, “about 15 minutes into that first date,” Ms. Hagan said, before she realized what she had been missing all those months.

“He was so intelligent, confident and easygoing,” she said. “He was so much fun to be around, I felt as if I had known him my whole life.”

They began dating and three weeks after their first date, they went to Portugal for a five-day vacation during which Mr. Haro became sick from food poisoning. Ms. Hagan nursed him back to health.

 

 

So dude keeps blowing up her phone but it's okay because he's rich and worked for McKinsey, the same shadowy consulting firm made famous by Pete Buttigieg.  Then the girl agrees to go on a second or third date to...Portugal.  

 

Must be nice.  

 

 

I was hoping there'd be BMX bikes with a name like Haro involved.

Honey Boo-Boo goes to the prom:

https://www.tmz.com/2023/04/24/honey-boo-boo-alana-thompson-prom-pics-pink-dress-horse-drawn-carriage-mama-june/

 

Greetings,

 

Today was one of those weekdays where a bit more free time was available so thought I'd momentarily veer off topic and share a few observations from a perspective some of you may have already experienced yourself or may someday find yourself in a similar situation. I'm referring to experiencing widowhood after a long and rewarding marriage that ended in the "till death do us part" scenario.  My spouse moved with me from Texas to eastern Ohio in October 2020 in the midst of the Pandemic. A sale of our home in Texas provided the long wished for opportunity to relocate to the Midwest and THE house (an early 1900's "bricktorian") happened to be found in Ohio. I was an around the clock caregiver for my spouse until last July when Liver disease, first diagnosed in 2013, took away my beloved. That left me alone again and in the over 60 bracket. Months passed while I became accustomed to living by myself again in a big house. My sole source of affection was a charming Bearded Dragon lizard, Redbud, that I was gifted a month before our move. She likes the climate in Ohio and so do I.  My first feeble attempts to reconnect to potentially available ladies occurred over the year end Holidays last year. (I didn't want to be alone on the Holidays but that's the way it turned out) My assumptions were that the best way to seek and and find potential friends was to exchange emails, texts, and in time, phone calls, while focusing on women who might share mutual interests and would be compatible.

 

When a man is older, seeking women for companionship from a specific age group becomes more challenging.  While I've known a number of kind-hearted white haired Grannies over the years, I'm still young enough to appreciate physical beauty. Those younger than 30 almost for certain have their own agenda and it's likely to be much different from mine.  Besides, they are more likely to be thinking about kids and raising a family and I've been there and done that. Therefore; my ideal dating range would be from 35 to maybe 60, active, physically fit, and adaptable to a busy lifestyle. I bought a rowing machine a few months before my spouse passed because I was overweight and a little flabby and was having difficulties picking her up when she fell, which happened much too often. Over a year later, I'm in the best physical shape since I was in my 50's and feel like a younger man trapped in an older man's body.  I've allowed my hair to grow out again as I've been a keen aficionado of Rock & Roll since my teens. (I also play electric guitar whenever I have time)  I've been tempted to get one of those T-Shirts emblazoned with "Over 60 and still not grown up? Then DON'T".

 

I read several mentions of different dating sites (paid subscriptions required) but those oriented towards seniors are a total turnoff to me. As I told a friend, I need to find someone younger and energetic to keep me young and energetic.  Locally, in this Village of 3,200 (Cadiz) there just aren't that many places to meet women. On most days, they almost literally roll up the sidewalks after 6 PM, year round. Sure, there's the Church thing, but while I'm deeply spiritual, I'm not very religious.  My experiences so far in trying to find online girl friends have been disappointing.  No disrespect intended, but the women on the Internet I've encountered-on Farcebook especially-sadly fit into the marked down, damaged goods category or they confess being divorcees who were the ones at fault.  Others are abused and hurt women who need a psychological counselor more so than they need a life mate.  Then there are those for whom chatting with men they don't know is a kind of an exciting game and they make you uncomfortably feel like your the mark and they are the gold diggers or schemers.  Only a time or two have I found someone who seemed good-hearted, of an acceptable age and in good health, who might be worth further looking into but barriers of distance make meeting face to face unlikely.  In summary, if any of you fit into the widower category, then you have my deepest sympathy.  Will I find the love of my life on Urban Ohio? (chuckling) Not very likely, but I suppose anything is possible.  I did take notice that all the posts in this thread were written by men. That said, since I've been a reader of Urban Ohio for over a decade, I feel this site is best suited for presenting life in Ohio's 3-C's as well as taking the pulse of politics and sharing the daily lives of readers here.  I see this "Dating" thread as useful but perhaps only to show that real people visit this site. If anyone has any insights or pointers, I'd like to read them.

 

Last, poor Honey Boo-Boo. As a little girl I feel she was exploited by the media and a victim of her socio-economic class, kind of like being in a Circus freak sideshow.  How much better it might have been for there to have been intervention, education, and compassion that would have led to lifestyle changes giving her life much more meaning and joy.  She may continue to be on the large side, but if she had been put on a path towards a healthier weight, she could have legitimately been called a beauty.  I sincerely wish her the best as she faces adulthood. One motto that I found helpful in losing weight was "Eat to live, don't live to eat". Simple, but true.  May all of you with unrequited love find true love in your future.