Bathroom soap that is just foam.

 

People who pick their teeth

 

Cell phone use on a treadmill

 

People who use coffee shops with limited seating as their home base for their small business. A small cup of coffee does not cut it.

 

Slow walkers on a sidewalk

 

Jealous orweight people chastising those who are skinnier for being skin and bones.

 

And most of all....

 

 

CASH ONLY PLACES!!!!!!!! Especially when you don't know before going and/or ordering

 

 

Bathroom soap that is just foam.

 

Bar soap really has taken a beating over the past 15 years hasn't it? Sorta like spray deodorant. Bar soap 'til death for me.

^I assume he meant foam versus gel, not versus bar soap. Bar soap in a public bathroom is not cool.

 

Speaking of public bathrooms (i.e., non-home bathrooms), I hate it when you have to pull a door open to exit.  After washing my hands, the last thing I want to touch is a bathroom door handle. I guess I'm kind of a germ phobe, but so, so many people skip the sinks even when coming out of a stall.  Much rather use my shoulder to push my way out.

^I assume he meant foam versus gel, not versus bar soap. Bar soap in a public bathroom is not cool.

 

Speaking of public bathrooms (i.e., non-home bathrooms), I hate it when you have to pull a door open to exit.  After washing my hands, the last thing I want to touch is a bathroom door handle. I guess I'm kind of a germ phobe, but so, so many people skip the sinks even when coming out of a stall.  Much rather use my shoulder to push my way out.

 

This is the main reason why I miss having my own bathroom in my office.

^I assume he meant foam versus gel, not versus bar soap. Bar soap in a public bathroom is not cool.

 

Speaking of public bathrooms (i.e., non-home bathrooms), I hate it when you have to pull a door open to exit.  After washing my hands, the last thing I want to touch is a bathroom door handle. I guess I'm kind of a germ phobe, but so, so many people skip the sinks even when coming out of a stall.  Much rather use my shoulder to push my way out.

 

Yeah, bar soap in public is no good, but it's better than none. One thing that I noticed is that in Appalachia it's traditional to prop men's rooms doors open as long as there's a partition or turn that makes it so that people can't see inside. That way men don't have to touch the doors. We don't do that in Ohio.

 

I was watching some '80s movie recently and they had those dispensers that spit out the powder soap. I had forgotten about those. That and that standard brown and beige dispenser with the outline of a soapy hand that spit out the pink soap that was everywhere.

Bathroom doors should always exit out if at all possible.  Sometimes architects will have them swing in if there's a path of travel on the other side and it's impossible to pocket the doorway.  But in large buildings, an inward swinging door is kind of inexcusable and a good example of a totally inexperienced architect.

I don't understand how the Walgreens and CVS stores within blocks of where I live don't sell alcohol....and there's a couple dozen bars in the area! 

 

Oh but I can pick up a fireplace or sushi.

Wow. You know that you've been at home too long when you want to go into the office...

When people take the elevator to go down one floor, stopping you twice... My rule: if you are going up one, or down two floors, take the stairs if possible.

When people take the elevator to go down one floor, stopping you twice... My rule: if you are going up one, or down two floors, take the stairs if possible.

 

^This!!!^

 

One thing that surprises me is that health care places that get all holier than thou about the types of foods in their vending machines all too often have the stairs in hidden away places, or not even accessible.

Stairs should always be more prominent than elevators. No reason to encourage laziness. Obviously, elevators need not be hidden for those who need them. But having stairs accessed, e.g., by a door that looks like every other door in a hallway, offset a bit from the prominent space where the elevators are located, is just poor design IMO.

Having stairways that look frightening is annoying too. I don't want to feel like I'm on my way to the dungeon when I'm just going down to the lobby.

Stairs should always be more prominent than elevators. No reason to encourage laziness. Obviously, elevators need not be hidden for those who need them. But having stairs accessed, e.g., by a door that looks like every other door in a hallway, offset a bit from the prominent space where the elevators are located, is just poor design IMO.

To use elevators, people should have to drop coins into a slot or swipe their credit card. People who have a legitimate need to use elevators could be issued "free pass" cards something like the handicapped parking placards they hang on their rear-view mirrors. To circumvent fraud, the card-swipe sensor could have some sort of biometric ID device attached. just a thumbprint would do.

I don't understand how the Walgreens and CVS stores within blocks of where I live don't sell alcohol....and there's a couple dozen bars in the area! 

 

Oh but I can pick up a fireplace or sushi.

So you've finally pissed of the people in your 'hood!  See how you bring down the quality of a neighborhood?

would waterboarding be too severe (or not severe enough) a punishment for the person who created this product? Or why not just go for the electric chair?

^I MUST HAVE ONE! Where do they sell such a glorious product?

I don't understand how the Walgreens and CVS stores within blocks of where I live don't sell alcohol....and there's a couple dozen bars in the area! 

 

Oh but I can pick up a fireplace or sushi.

So you've finally pissed of the people in your 'hood!  See how you bring down the quality of a neighborhood?

 

And that's why I avoid the neighborhood meetings.  All the residents ever do is complain about a lack of free parking and how the tall towers cast shadows, so there must be no more tall towers or there will be more shadows.

I don't understand how the Walgreens and CVS stores within blocks of where I live don't sell alcohol....and there's a couple dozen bars in the area! 

 

Oh but I can pick up a fireplace or sushi.

So you've finally pissed of the people in your 'hood!  See how you bring down the quality of a neighborhood?

 

And that's why I avoid the neighborhood meetings.  All the residents ever do is complain about a lack of free parking and how the tall towers cast shadows, so there must be no more tall towers or there will be more shadows.

Its all your fault!

^I MUST HAVE ONE! Where do they sell such a glorious product?

with all the talk about Walgreens here, that's where they sell them!

Hot sauce in the eye!!!!

 

What's the first aid for this?  Bleu cheese dressing?!

Hot sauce in the eye!!!!

 

What's the first aid for this?  Bleu cheese dressing?!

 

Hot sauce in the eye!!!!

 

What's the first aid for this?  Bleu cheese dressing?!

Dunno but I've taken to wearing safety glasses when chopping hot peppers.

Hot sauce in the eye!!!!

 

What's the first aid for this?  Bleu cheese dressing?!

Dunno but I've taken to wearing safety glasses when chopping hot peppers.

 

Oh stop being a whimp!  I use hot sauce for eye drops!  Man up!!

Not really a pet peeve, but similar, I guess...

 

Don't you love it when a homophobic man, who constantly talks about how he thrives "on a regular supply of b@$ches" but worries about gay dudes, somehow finds his way onto a gay dating site?

I wouldn't say that I love it.

Ok, well, I wouldn't say that I love it either, but it is satisfying in a way. Similar to how in Bridge to Terabithia Jess learns something about the school bully and gains some knowledge on why they're a bully.

 

Random childhood reference, but one of younger cousins is reading the book and we were talking about it, so, it was on my mind.

Women under 25 seem to think that like 70% of things men do is "creepy" these days, so it's definitely an overused term.

I've never been call this myself but I am generally annoyed by people who use the term "creeper".

 

Haha, I used it today, possibly for the first time ever, to describe this guy:

 

http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/11/world/europe/uk-savile-sex-abuse/index.html

 

The description is just too apt.

Subwoofers, and any audio device with serious bass sound generating capacity, should be illegal on any residential parcel smaller than a quarter acre.  And subject to minimum prison sentences in multifamily buildings.  Much like car alarms, the annoyance to others far outweighs any possible benefit to the inconsiderate ahole who owns one.

buying a Hershey's bar in anticipation of unadulterated chocolate induced blitz, then getting home and unwrapping it to find that it has almonds in it. 

 

Almonds, let it be known that you are my least favorite nut and that I want you to stay away from my chocolate.

Since you brought up chocolate, when a coworker puts a bowl of assorted miniture Hershey's that somehow is missing special dark. Milk chocolate isn't real chocolate.

Cigars that are dried out. That $hit isn't cheap!

People have been massively overusing the term "butt hurt" for the past month or so (or maybe I'm just now noticing it). Can we please stop that?

My girlfriend having a best male friend. It is so weird and inappropriate to me but apparently I'm the only one who sees it that way. This guy is always at her house, even when she's not there. He is also friends with her room mate but he's definitely closer to my girlfriend. She'll ask me to come over at night...and he's there. He spends the night all the time., He's always around and him and my girlfriend start talking about stuff that I can't even relate to and I just feel like a third wheel. It'll be 2am and I'm wanting to go upstairs to bed and he's telling my girlfriend "let's just watch one more episode!" It's so obnoxious.

 

We went out one night and he was at her house sitting there, texting her, "You said you'd be back by now!?" I almost left her after that because she texted him back saying, "I'll explain later." What the hell do you have to explain?

 

 

He's like a 5 foot tall, 80 pound hipster, I don't really feel threatened by him but he is extremely annoying having to be around him so much.

 

Here's where the plot thickens though. He has a girlfriend. Why on earth doesn't he spend time with HER instead of my girlfriend? His girlfriend has never even met my girlfriend and from what I've heard, has a big problem with the situation. I don't think he's being fair to his girlfriend at all and I think he has some serious boundary issues but unfortunately I'm the only one who sees it this way.

My girlfriend having a best male friend. It is so weird and inappropriate to me but apparently I'm the only one who sees it that way. This guy is always at her house, even when she's not there. He is also friends with her room mate but he's definitely closer to my girlfriend. She'll ask me to come over at night...and he's there. He spends the night all the time., He's always around and him and my girlfriend start talking about stuff that I can't even relate to and I just feel like a third wheel. It'll be 2am and I'm wanting to go upstairs to bed and he's telling my girlfriend "let's just watch one more episode!" It's so obnoxious.

 

We went out one night and he was at her house sitting there, texting her, "You said you'd be back by now!?" I almost left her after that because she texted him back saying, "I'll explain later." What the hell do you have to explain?

 

 

He's like a 5 foot tall, 80 pound hipster, I don't really feel threatened by him but he is extremely annoying having to be around him so much.

 

Here's where the plot thickens though. He has a girlfriend. Why on earth doesn't he spend time with HER instead of my girlfriend? His girlfriend has never even met my girlfriend and from what I've heard, has a big problem with the situation. I don't think he's being fair to his girlfriend at all and I think he has some serious boundary issues but unfortunately I'm the only one who sees it this way.

 

I was going to say if he doesn't have a girlfriend, then it's very clear what he's up to.  But if he does, that's just plain strange.  Wherever you've heard that the guy's girlfriend has a big problem with this (as she should), get the word back to her that you are sick of it too. 

 

Single "guy friends" who are straight, at least 2/3 of the time are trying to get with the woman in question, one way or another.

 

I almost hate to suggest this, but if you have any female friends, in her league or better appearance wise, see if you can get them to play along and carry on text conversations with you.  If she doesn't care this won't work but she probably will.  Best case scenario she gets the hint, but even if she gets on your case then the situation with the 80 pound wonder becomes fair game.  At the very least it gives you leverage to negotiate some interruption free time. Keep the texts more or less innocent, and offer to show her them if things get irate.

 

It's kind of sad that the more gamesy and cynical a strategem is, the more likely it is to work.  But it is what it is. 

I wouldn't be ok with that setup. I'd have a hard time with her having a girl friend that was that intrusive. She's entitled to have her friends / relationships outside of yours, but this one is definitely intruding into your relationship with her, and she's going to have to understand that it's causing a problem. I can't believe this isn't the first time this issue has come up, if this is a long time friend. I'd have a conversation with her and explain your perspective and say there has to be some boundaries.

He might be trying to pull the old, usually-unsuccessful "endless supply" maneuver where he figures that if they just spend a ton of time together that she'll end up really digging him. Whereas your girlfriend probably put him into the friend zone a long time ago. I'd worry more about the annoyance of his presence rather than any hanky-panky between the two.

I'd worry more about the annoyance of his presence rather than any hanky-panky between the two.

 

Agreed. I think his gender is irrelevant.

The term faghag. Hate it hate it hate it, even if it's meant to be endearing

double date?

But David, weren't you earlier complaining about the chick getting all clingy with you because you were some kind of badass 50s cool cat or something?

Now you're getting whiny & jealous?

which way is it - or are you actually the friend?

I almost hate to suggest this, but if you have any female friends, in her league or better appearance wise, see if you can get them to play along and carry on text conversations with you.  If she doesn't care this won't work but she probably will.  Best case scenario she gets the hint, but even if she gets on your case then the situation with the 80 pound wonder becomes fair game.  At the very least it gives you leverage to negotiate some interruption free time. Keep the texts more or less innocent, and offer to show her them if things get irate.

 

It's kind of sad that the more gamesy and cynical a strategem is, the more likely it is to work.  But it is what it is. 

 

In my opinion, this is the worst thing you can do. The conversation is already fair game. No need to create a scene.

 

Talk to the other guy and just explain the situation that it makes you uncomfortable that he is always around. Talk to your GF about it too and make it clear that while you aren't saying they can't hang out, tell her that he really shouldn't be sleeping over, watching movies at night with her, and getting mad when the two of you go on a date. None of this playing games. That will only lead to more problems, fights, and more bad blood between people.

I almost hate to suggest this, but if you have any female friends, in her league or better appearance wise, see if you can get them to play along and carry on text conversations with you.  If she doesn't care this won't work but she probably will.  Best case scenario she gets the hint, but even if she gets on your case then the situation with the 80 pound wonder becomes fair game.  At the very least it gives you leverage to negotiate some interruption free time. Keep the texts more or less innocent, and offer to show her them if things get irate.

 

It's kind of sad that the more gamesy and cynical a strategem is, the more likely it is to work.  But it is what it is. 

 

In my opinion, this is the worst thing you can do. The conversation is already fair game. No need to create a scene.

 

Talk to the other guy and just explain the situation that it makes you uncomfortable that he is always around. Talk to your GF about it too and make it clear that while you aren't saying they can't hang out, tell her that he really shouldn't be sleeping over, watching movies at night with her, and getting mad when the two of you go on a date. None of this playing games. That will only lead to more problems, fights, and more bad blood between people.

 

Talking to him is the worst thing you can do.  He'll go all passive aggressive and if so inclined, your girl will make it all your fault.

I find it very hard to believe that being honest with the guy and trying to work things out peacefully is a worse solution then trying to "get back at them" or whatever by staging a similar event. If you think that talking to him will backfire, think about how much of an a** you'll be when she finds out about your little plan to get her to feel the same way.

You should just turn the tables and have sex with him. That'll show her!

she told me if I had a best female friend that I was around all the time it wouldn't bother her but she's a lot more jealous than she realizes. I can't even mention another woman being good looking without seriously offending her. I would never invite her over to my apt. while another female friend is there and while the female friend intends to stay the night after being up all night talking to me. that's just rude and inconsiderate. I wouldn't do that to her just to prove a point; two wrongs don't make a right but I can't believe she doesn't see anything wrong with this scenario. I just texted her and asked if her ex boyfriend had the same boundary issues with him and she said no, that they were really good friends. I find that hard to believe.

I find it very hard to believe that being honest with the guy and trying to work things out peacefully is a worse solution then trying to "get back at them" or whatever by staging a similar event. If you think that talking to him will backfire, think about how much of an a** you'll be when she finds out about your little plan to get her to feel the same way.

 

I used to think the same exact way.  Then I worked in a bar on "kiddie night" for years.  :drunk:

 

"I just texted her and asked if her ex boyfriend had the same boundary issues with him and she said no, that they were really good friends. I find that hard to believe."

 

I don't.  That's a major piece of the puzzle right there. 

 

He wants her back with his buddy, and thinks it may happen if you're out of the way.

 

She may or may not realize this, and the same with her ex.  Hell, the guy may not consciously realize it.

 

 

E Rocc you're being ridiculous. They're not "buddies". I've heard said friend talk sh!t about him before. They may have been friends at the time, but this is really just an issue of him being so damn needy of her attention, unfortunately even really late at night when it should be so obvious that its inappropiate. I mean, we go back to her place at 1am and there he is on the couch.

 

If her ex didn't mind it...well honestly,.from what I've heard, he was basically just using her. He wasn't with her for the right reasons so I could see him putting up with that as long as he gets what he wants.

 

Girlfriend just told me she has already talked to him about boundaries several times but "she can't help it if her room mate lets him in, they're friends too."

 

That's true but they're not that good of friends. My girlfriend's friend, I feel, is using that as a way to get in, sit around on his computer and wait around for her to come home from work.

 

I've never in my life seen a guy so inapprppriately needy of a TAKEN woman's attention. She's MY girlfriend. I hadn'd said anything and put up with it for a while because they knew each other before I came along and I really feel like she shouldn't have to change her life to accommodate me.

 

It's just too strange; according to him, HE has a girlfriend as well. I'm starting to wonder if he made this girlfriend up since no one in our circle if friends has ever met her but assuming she does exist, he's,being extremely selfish and inconsiderate to me AND his girlfriend at the same time. I can't imagine spending the night at any other woman's house besides by girlfriend's on a regular basis.

 

It's funny, he comes across as this sweet, sensitive hipster dude but that is incredibly rude, insensitive, selfish and just f#cked up. Apparently my girlfriend is oblivious to all of this. I'm just going to have a talk with him myself and tell him about himself next time I see him and go from there.

That's some serious soap opera drama you have going on there.

 

I just have to worry about my wife getting hit on by girls in my roller derby league.

You have absolutely no idea. It really doesn't help that my job is a culinary nightmare and I work with my girlfriend who was originally a screw-buddy who I originally told, "Don't have any expectations" until my idiot self fell in love with her while no one is supposed to know about us being together at work but meanwhile our coworkers flirt with us, try to date us and sleep with us on a regular basis. It's an absolute disaster. I could tell you stories later.  You wouldn't believe what all has tested our relationship in just the past four months.

You have absolutely no idea. It really doesn't help that my job is a culinary nightmare and I work with my girlfriend who was originally a screw-buddy who I originally told, "Don't have any expectations" until my idiot self fell in love with her while no one is supposed to know about us being together at work but meanwhile our coworkers flirt with us, try to date us and sleep with us on a regular basis. It's an absolute disaster. I could tell you stories later.  You wouldn't believe what all has tested our relationship in just the past four months.

 

Regardless, the guy has his own agenda (even if it's simply to keep as much of her attention as he can) and it's in conflict with yours.  If he has an IQ of more than 17, he knows this is causing your relationship problems and you're not going to be happy about it.  Talking to him straight up isn't going to resolve anything, and don't put any stock into what he says about anyone/anything. 

 

That "no one is supposed to know" is relationship poison.  Maybe it's necessary because of work, but nothing good has ever come of anything like that.